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Senin, 26 April 2010

Affection In psychology

In psychology the terms affection and affective are of great importance. As all intellectual phenomena have by experimentalists been reduced to sensation, so all emotion has been and is regarded as reducible to simple mental affection, the element of which all emotional manifestations are ultimately composed. The nature of this element is a problem that has been provisionally, but not conclusively, solved by many psychologists; the method is necessarily experimental, and all experiments on feeling are peculiarly difficult. The solutions proposed are two. In the first, all affection phenomena are primarily divisible into those that are pleasurable and those that are the reverse. The main objections to this are that it does not explain the infinite variety of phenomena, and that it disregards the distinction that most philosophers admit between higher and lower pleasures. The second solution is that every sensation has its specific affective quality, though by reason of the poverty of language many of these have no name. W. Wundt, Outlines of Psychology (trans. C. H. Judd, Leipzig, 1897), maintains that we may group under three main affective directions, each with its negative, all the infinite varieties in question; these are (a) pleasure, or rather pleasantness, and displeasure, (b) tension and relaxation, (c) excitement and depression. These two views are antithetic and no solution has been discovered.

American psychologist Henry Murray (1893–1988) developed a theory of personality that was organized in terms of motives, presses, and needs. According to Murray, these psychogenic needs function mostly on the unconscious level, but play a major role in our personality. Murray classified five affection needs:

  1. Affiliation: Spending time with other people.
  2. Nurturance: Taking care of another person.
  3. Play: Having fun with others.
  4. Rejection: Rejecting other people.
  5. Succorance: Being helped or protected by others

Two methods of experiment on affection have been tried:
  1. The first, introduced by A. Mosso, the Italian psychologist, consists in recording the physical phenomena that accompany modifications of the affective consciousness. Thus it is found that the action of the heart is accelerated by pleasant, and retarded by unpleasant, stimuli; again, changes of weight and volume are found to accompany modifications of affection—and so on. Apart altogether from the facts that this investigation is still in its infancy and that the conditions of experiment are insufficiently understood, its ultimate success is rendered highly problematical by the essential fact that real scientific results can be achieved only by data recorded in connection with a perfectly normal subject; a conscious or interested subject introduces variable factors that are probably incalculable.
  2. The second is Fechner's method; it consists of recording the changes in feeling-tone produced in a subject by bringing him in contact with a series of conditions, objects or stimuli graduated according to a scientific plan and presented singly in pairs or in groups. The result is a comparative table of likes and dislikes.

Mention should also be made of a third method that has hardly yet been tried, namely, that of endeavouring to isolate one of the three directions by the method of suggestion or even hypnotic trance observations.

Minggu, 25 April 2010

For You

To night ....
Wind Blown, desert sounds
Moon hiding behind a black mega
as if he knew that the night is gray

Does the moon also know the contents of my heart?
I wanted day and night
Yearning for love hearts ....
not come.

Goddess of the night ...
tell him
there vengeful longing in the heart
can you convey, the Moon?
Can ...

if you want to ... faster say
if you want to ... quickly convey
That longing has been embedded
For her

Sabtu, 24 April 2010

You and Only You

Attractions bringing them together. Nursing is taking steps to build a relationship. Love is involvement with that strongly. Dedication is a "lose ourselves" for others. Dedication is the highest stage in which the lover's identity late in the beloved. At this stage, the ego is the place. It is a feeling of unity. In Hinduism, marriage is a tradition to develop, achieve and maintain unity.

All love relationships do not end for the dedication (here's wedding). Several reasons are responsible for it. One or two individuals are not ready for dedication. The family creed, caste, religion, state and act as a barrier more parameters "for the relationship to an upgrade of love for their dedication. In such cases, both lovers suffer pain and grief. Life seems to be sad for them. Only a few may try to commit suicide because of their "failure in the relationship is equivalent to LIFE LOST."

But life is glorious and divine entities of a relationship. We are born on earth with some greater purpose. To make life worth living must live with gusto by every individual. Broken love relationship ends with the feeling of heartbreak.

If you feel a broken heart,

  • Remember her and spend good time together. Cry as much as you can.
  • Gradually ignore thoughts about themselves and relationships. (This is not easy, but it is not difficult.)
  • To forget the beloved is very important, so give yourself time wise.
  • Divert your mind to the things you love (or used to like before engaging in a relationship)
  • If you and your loved ones is determined strong, giving the relationship a "U" turn and a new name. Determine the boundaries of the new relationship. To maintain the boundaries of this new relationship should be the responsibility of both individuals.
  • Identify the purpose of your life and pamper yourself in these achievements.

Nothing in this world can make you happy, if you do not want to be.
No one on this earth can make you sad, if you do not want to be.
It is you and only you, who can make you happy or sad.

Fruits of Karma

All of us want real love. From our childhood, when we started living with the mother on her breast, remained until the end of this longing. Desire sometimes be achieved because true love is someone had to escape him, raises a big question for survival. What can be done about it? Why do we long for those we love and we have lost? Here's a wonderful quote about that "What the heart once owned and had, never will be defeated." Henry Ward Beecher. Because the heart never forgets, we continue to long for a lost love and suffering.

Many of us dwell in misery, some of us go to therapy sessions and some of us to share our pain with my friends. Which is the best way out? If you think about the actions previously stated, none of them gives a hope in love again. In each situation, we compromise with the pain, try to reduce the pain and tried to live as normally as possible without our loved one before.

What about prayer? What if I lose my love and not seek therapy, or just feel sad or compromise with my country, I pray to God that I get my love back? This is a process that requires extraordinary faith in the power of prayer. But in this way remain hopeful that one day the missing will return. This road is not easy to take because of the tension may be very bad, maybe very long wait and one might have survived with the prayers for years. Therefore we must pray with intensity. According to the law of karma, karma and prayers are certainly going to bear fruit.